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SSS The Spirit/Sex Split

11/9/2016

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In the Western World, for several thousand years, there has been a crevice, philosophically, religiously, and in the practical daily lives of us humans – a crevice between spirituality, which is assigned to the province of the holy, the sacred, the pure and heavenly, God, light and archetypally “sky culture;” vs. sexuality, which is assigned to the profane, darkness, dark rooms, the realm of Hell, dirtiness, mud, ooze, and “earth culture.”

Surely there have been energetic efforts to cross the split, from Gnosticism, Wiccan, to the 1960’s “sexual liberation” and “free love,” and a tributary running through Modern Feminism, Post Feminism, and post-Modern Feminism. Yet these movements have only scratched the surface of the Western consciousness, when it comes to the split/sex duality. It seems to me that many, if not most of us in Western culture are wounded and scarred deeply by doctrine and influences that are promulgated by Church, local and national government, community social groups, and yes, the media (even now).

Consider that the 1960 Boy Scout Manual has a chapter on “Masturbation” in the table of contents. Turning to the chapter, the reader finds one sentence only: it says “Masturbation is unhealthy and un-American.” This message was for our 11-year-old boys ! Consider that in this age of pornography becoming a casual pastime, the most alluring and seductive images and movies are often labelled “wicked,” forbidden,” or “immoral,” by the advertisers, who are exploiting the spirit/sex split, by appealing, sometimes subliminally, to the magnetic draw of doing something “wrong” (and sometimes not so subliminally). It was not that many years ago that we had a breakthrough porn movie called “The Devil in Miss Jones.” Yet it was a breakthrough only in public acceptance of a genre, but perhaps a setback in our attempts to seek and understand Consciousness as a complete whole, so that we might function as whole and as complete persons.

It is in our own spiritual strivings, which at their best are a journey toward this very wholeness and completion – and in our relationships with our intimate partners, our spouses, our lovers, where we seek to have loving exchange, uninhibited fun, relaxed closeness, pleasure without doubt or physical expressions of pathology; it is in these areas that we carry psychological and soul-ogical damage, that we experience pain, senses of failure, attempts to deny our bodies in order to become clean and spiritual, and blocks to merging of body, mind, and soul within ourselves.
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​Ursula K. Le Guin, novelist, feminist, philosopher, writes, in 1997: Christian or Cartesian dualism, the division of spirit or mind from the material body and world, existed long before Christianity or Descartes, and was never limited to Western thought (though it is the “craziness” or “sickness” that many people under Western domination see in Western civilization). Lao Tzu thinks the materialistic dualist, who tries to ignore the body and live in the head, and the religious dualist, who despises the body and lives for a reward in heaven, are both dangerous and in danger. So, enjoy your life, he says; live in your body, you are your body; where else is there to go ? Heaven and earth are one. As you walk on the streets of your town, you walk on the Way of heaven. (1)

The spirit/sex duality, and its impact on those longing for a harmonious self, holding both spirituality and sexuality, is the subject of this blog.

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dpearne link
11/10/2016 07:36:55 pm

testing this out -- I want a spiritual path, but i'm afraid my sex drive is too high, and that's what keeps dragging me off it; or, lately my body's been opening up sexually, but I treasure my spiritual life and don't want to lose it; or, I don't understand the sexual blocks I have, could it be from my religious training? or, I can't focus when i meditate, these guilt feelings come up, and I don't know where they're from

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another test run from author link
11/12/2016 04:01:54 pm

or, for instance...Dr. Pearne, you're full of shit about the various revisionist feminist writers and followers -- there is no such intent -- regardless of some unintended impact upon some readers, the distinction between post-feminism and post-modern feminism is...

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crowan
12/5/2016 01:32:59 pm

It has been said that we on this Earth are 'not human beings having a spiritual experience, but spiritual beings having a human experience.'
For me, that moment of climax is an experience of the divine, the body and the spirit are one.

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Sam
1/3/2017 06:10:43 am

Taking it all in. Vacillating between. --- rudimentary Neanderthal knee jerk reaction (spirituality. Just is. Can't over think it. Just breathe. Post modern feminism - overly self conscious superfluous construct or natural psycho evolutionary progress?). Put your left foot in .....put your right foot in ....). AND - well. How DO I feel about all this, all this I have glossed over until this point. All I have taken for granted as one
linear progression running on its own gathered momentum....entropy enabled slacker???. maybe opted out too early or dropped the conscious pursuit as I glide and crawl and pander and creep toward my own dotage ...not content exactly but resigned to ponder the sublime from the sidelines clinging to bits and bites as they fall within my grasp ....passisive agnostic aggressive dilettante Butt there see. Brought it to aa small personal level instead of larger largesse consideration. The devil in ms jones is of her own making after all.
The erotic the spiritual. The confluence of body and soul = climax?

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Ariana link
4/6/2019 08:50:41 pm

Great blog Dennis.

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